Values Worksheet

Participants in the free June “Directive Drumbeat” are receiving a series of five emails throughout the month to help them finally pull their thoughts together and get their Advanced Directives written and signed by the end of the month.

One of the first steps is to think about the values that are most important. This worksheet should help.

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Probate as the Boogey-Man: What is Probate and Why Do I Want to Avoid It?

Almost as strong as Americans’ longing to avoid death is our collective insistence that probate is worse than the boogey-man and is to be avoided if at all humanly possible. It’s as though probate is out there to get you, lurking in your closet, the reason you’re taught to look under the bed before going to sleep.

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Are my end of life plans meant for me or for the loved ones I will have left behind?

In a workshop I led recently for young people in their 20s about end of life planning and how they can talk with their (mostly older) loved ones about it, a young woman asked a profoundly important question: “Are my end of life plans meant for me or for the loved ones I will have left behind?” I wish I’d taken a moment before I responded.


How to Help Your Older Loved Ones Through COVID-19

According to a recent Harris poll reported by Forbes, 25% of adults over 65 admitted they’re not very knowledgeable about COVID-19, 77% think they’re “unlikely” to catch it, 91% still plan to go to the grocery store, and only 20% said they would avoid mass transit. (For comparison, only 77% of Millennials plan to keep shopping and 35% plan to avoid mass transit.)

Here are 7 Suggestions for how you can help the older loved ones in your life through this confusing and potentially alarming time…

Focus On…Death and Dying

Hereafter Partners was featured on New Jersey public access television in February. Founder Leslie Rowley was interviewed by Lew Goldstein on his topical program Focus On. They discussed why it is so important to talk about issues related to aging and death and dying with your loved ones well before the end feels near. This conversation will be old hat for Hereafter Partners readers but it might be good for sharing with friends or loved ones who might not have yet become comfortable with the topic.

Special thanks to Lew, producer Dana Hughes Moorhead, Chuck McEnroe, and Princeton Community Television for making this appearance possible.


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How to Be With a Dying Person

When my friend, Dorothy Mullen, was diagnosed with Stage Four lung cancer, she spent the last few months of her life helping people become more comfortable (or at least accustomed) to speaking about and planning for death.  This is a guest post from Dorothy addressing the top 13 worries that people have about being around a dying person—from “What should I say or do” to “What if I say the wrong thing?”

Finish Strong

New Dementia Resources

One of the most frequent questions is whether there are any ways to protect our wishes about end of life care in the face of neurodegenerative diseases. 

As part of their newly consolidated “Tools to Finish Strong,” the national organization Compassion & Choices has launched a suite of new interactive dementia resources to help you stay in control of your life and care even if a time comes when you are no longer able to make decisions for yourself.

Learn more about the Dementia Values and Priorities Tool and the Dementia Decoder…

Dorothy Mullen in August 2019

Dorothy’s End of Life Planning Packet

Dorothy Mullen, whose “radically real schpiels” on death and dying were an inspiration to her community, co-hosted a public even with Hereafter Partners founder Leslie Rowley. The video of the event and the accompanying informational packet should be part of anyone’s “starter kit” when it comes to end of life planning.